I have several friends that are job hunting right now, searching for an opportunity in this non opportunistic economy. Although I’ve been very blessed by having not only having a job, but one that I love, I still feel the stress. Stress for them and their situations and stress knowing it could be me.
Last week, I received a forwarded email from a friend with a job listing she received from an online job search site. Before I respond to it, I’ll let you read it.
Category: Writing, Editing & Translation
Description: Single white male seeking open minded creative female writer please, to edit and rewrite some internet personal datng ads. That can attract and convey that I’m a multi dimensional open minded male with a caregiver overall character.
I’ve been fortunate to have some long term relationships with some beautiful openly Bi women that lead to some SAFE unforgettable fun times. I’ve been very open with those I date. I believe in having open honest communication rather than playing games and wasting time.
So my point is I don’t necessarily need to walk on that side but would like to have about 4-5 racy different ads that are very candid in letting the reader know that I don’t judge people and if they are, OR were straight, bi or curious with mild to wild desires now and then, that’s fine. But among other things point out that I’m a very accepting, financially and emotionally secure, non jealous type of person.
I would like to place the ads onto various sites and have the ads be tasteful yet a bit edgy.
My first uttered word after picking my jaw up off the floor was “wow”. Is this for real? This clearly combines everything bad about the dating world and everything bad about job hunting, creating a disturbing portrait of our society.
The single white male that posted this has not only put a lot of time, effort and thought into this, but also spend a good amount of money doing it. I would love to hear his definition of some of the words he’s chosen here: caregiver, long-term, safe, emotionally secure… It’s not really the ad that makes me uncomfortable, it’s the fact that he’s looking for a professional writer to make his personal ads, and making all of this sound fun and acceptable. I know this world exists and there will be plenty of women that will respond to his “well written” ads, but I suppose the part that bothers me to the point that I’m writing this, is that it’s intersected with my world.
I’m not a very judgmental person, and if this is the lifestyle he has chosen and he has women choosing to participate as well, then that’s his business. I’m a single mom, not very actively dating, but let’s say I want to change that at some point. I would not like to run into this guy, or anyone like him. Seeing online dating through the eyes of friends, they have run into this type of single white male. The problem? These friends have similar values to mine and yet they are getting matched up with men or women that in no way resemble what they are looking for. Do guys like this lie on their profiles or are the people matching software programs written that poorly?
Now let’s talk about my friend that received this and other friends I have that are job hunting. (I suppose hunting is a good word since you have to gear up, find one, then fight for it) I have several friends that desperately need a job. Imagine the job hunt… You wake up in the morning to check your inbox and you have four or five emails from job search sites. Out of thousands of jobs, you get the four to five responses. The above listing was one of many like that, a listing for questionable freelance work. I seriously doubt any of my friends would ever consider replying to a listing like this one, but the fact that this type of listing comes up and they have to weed through stuff like this, well, it just has to be frustrating. Where is the real job they need?
I do call this a disturbing portrait of our society, despite that, I plan to be a speck in the corner of that portrait that represents goodness. Goodness in God and goodness through positive influence. I know there are many good specks in the portrait and when you stand back and look, those specks make a beautiful impression, overlaying the sometimes unfavorable reality.