Okay, so maybe I have taken this paperless thing a bit too far… or have I?  Yesterday, Lindsey, my friend and coworker, said the most awesome thing to me.  She said, “Happy Mother’s Day!” and followed that up with something like, “I was going to get you a card, but then I thought you wouldn’t like a card because it’s paper, so I didn’t get you one.”  That completely made my day!  When someone takes the time to get to know you and expresses that in some form or fashion, it just feels really good.  That’s the perfect example of “it’s the thought that counts.”  I spent time with my boys for Mother’s Day, no cards, no flowers, just quality time.

Some of the best and most meaningful thoughts on paper that I’ve ever received were written on recycled paper scraps, on the back of a daily devotional or on the inside of a book.  These aren’t paperless, but they also didn’t cost $3.99 and say Hallmark on the back.

Later in the afternoon we went over to my friend Shannon’s house for waffles.  I told my boys to get plates and get their food.  Next thing I know, they’re both standing in front of me, looking angry, holding the paper plates in front of them like they’re showing me some art pieces.  Cole starts in on the “wasteful” speech.  I quickly realized there’s some sort of balance here that I have neglected to teach my kids.  Yes, stand up for what you believe in, but I guess I need to work a little harder on teaching them to take people’s feelings into consideration.  And manners?  I’m teaching my kids to always be honest.  If I ask, “…do I look fat in this dress?”  I’m looking for an honest opinion, not fishing for a compliment of lies about how thin I’m not.  It’s okay for my kids to stand up for what they believe in, but I guess I need to help them with some filters.  Be honest, but find a nice way to do it?

I know I’m teaching them everything against what our culture is teaching them.  I guess I should teach them something like this; let people know what you’re about and what you stand for, but don’t impose your beliefs on others.  Show them your reasons in pleasant, non-aggressive ways, be open minded to other viewpoints and appreciate any differences. I’ve started their therapy funds just in case.  ;)